So here we are.  Black women.  Embracing our natural kinks, curls, and coils. FINALLY! We have the information we need.  We have the support from each other.  We have the confidence to strut with our hair held high.  And YES…we have PRODUCTS!!!!!  That will work on our hair!  YAY!  Um…no.  The products that were finally made for us, by us are dun dun dun …too damn expensive! And, I don’t understand why!

Listen, I’m not a business owner so maybe there’s some sort of reasoning behind the high price points that I’ve witnessed with these products.  From my point of view, I just. don’t. get it.  Why is a 8oz jar of a mixture of butters $29?????  Where is the justification? And then to make matters worse…if I RELUCTANTLY decide to buy said $29 jar and my hair doesn’t like it, I’m assed out.  The $29 jar sits in my cabinet never to be used again.

There are so many products that I would LOVE to try and probably would love based on the reviews I see on YouTube but I will never buy them because again…it’s just too damn expensive.  And no, I’m not buying a Curlbox subscription.  That’s just another waste of my money.  Cute concept though.

The crazy thing is, “WE” are actually purchasing these products!  Yall, got it like THAT?!? HOW?!? I know I don’t.  Not for a damn hair product…that might NOT work!

*le sigh* There has to be a better solution.  Oh, I know.  How about we start by reducing the price of the products?  By reducing your prices, don’t you think you would get more new and returning customers?  I know I don’t want to make my own concoctions.  I typically don’t have the time or energy but you natural hair companies leave me no choice.

But, I digress.  My teeny, tiny rant will probably have NO impact.

*ends rant*

When Sex and the City was still show on HBO, I couldn’t relate at all.  I was in my 20’s.  I had a great(or what I thought was great) boyfriend.  It was just another very entertaining show to me.  Now that I am in my 30’s, I find that the episodes speak to my life more and more.  The only difference is that, the ladies were meeting men in clubs and bars.  Nowadays, I am meeting men from online dating sites.

Boy, has it been a journey.  Have I found love?  Hell no.  But, my journey wasn’t as bad as others.

I haven’t had a guy stand me up.  I haven’t had a guy look one way in his picture and then in person he was a raggamuffin.  I’ve never had a guy ask me for money while on the date(yes, this happened to a girlfriend of mine).  However, there was that time that a guy told me on the phone that I was a bitter, cunt, bitch.  LOL!!!! I got called that because he asked if I thought about him that day.  The question threw me off. I am an honest person so I said…”not really.” Seriously, we had only been conversing via phone for TWO days.  Sorry dude, you were not the special for me to be thinking about you during my busy work day. So yea, no.  I wasn’t thinking about you. Luckily, I never met him.  Can you imagine that loony tune in person?

Like I said, my journey hasn’t been that bad.  All of the men I have met were polite and respectful.  They professional backgrounds ranged from construction workers to teachers to a network engineer at Google.  That was a GREAT date!  I got to tour Google! That place is AH-MAZING!! Sorry, I got sidetracked. =)

Luckily, they were all attractive men. Tall, fit(except for 2), and had all their teeth. None of them had multiple kids by multiple women.  I definitely can’t complain.  I just didn’t find love with any of them.

I have since deleted my profiles on the various sites.  Just to clarify, I wasn’t on more than one site at a time.  I always tried one at a time.

Would I recommend online dating?  Absolutely!  It was a great way for me to connect with many different types of men from different areas of the Tri-State. There is no way I would have met and hung out with those types of men if it weren’t for online dating. Unfortunately yet fortunately, I didn’t find love.  And that’s fine. The experience has taught me a lot about myself and what I truly am looking for.

Now…I just need God to come through and handle the rest.